On Reality and Reputation

28 Sep

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On Reality and Reputation

By Kathy Custren

 

The current saga of the senate confirmation hearing of judge Brett Kavanaugh unfolding in the public arena of the U.S. Government embodies the struggle between history and storytelling; of reality and reputation. There is a war on, not only to ‘manage the truth,’ but to silence voices that would otherwise speak out—or, as many wonder—would have spoken out years ago. The power struggle is a real one, where we pit one person’s reality of experience against another person’s claim of reputation.

As the senate confirmation hearing points out so well, these are not only larger stories of a nation. These stories reach down to the personal level, as with Dr. Christine Blasey Ford, where so many experiences serve to define what makes or breaks each one of us. What are the lessons that make up our past? What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, or so others tell us. Defining those very personal stories and airing them for the world to see is no small feat; nor does it diminish the horror we find at its core.

For some persons who take charge of telling horrific stories, it is more a matter of choice and creativity. Take very successful novelist Stephen King as a prime example. He has made it his life work to bring us creative stories that scare the bejesus out of us—that shock our sensibilities and may awaken the darker side of our collective psyche as to the unnameable fears that lie dormant in some deep layer or layers of our understanding. King takes us down some dark and sketchy roads at times, but his many readers trust his reputation of masterful telling in the many stories we consume eagerly.

This senate confirmation hearing and the extended stories of the #MeToo movement are quite another thing entirely. With Stephen King’s stories, we pay good money for a good scare. The stories of pain and fear elicited at the hands of other men over time do not hold the same sense of masterful reputation. Women tell stories of scary experiences at the hands of men that are beyond the parameters of choice or want. Persons who suffer abuse would not ‘pay good money’ to have these types of personal encounters or to welcome them to our life story; yet, they are all to prevalent to deny. These are real horror stories, to be sure, and they have an effect on the overall dark and painful experiences of women over time. These are generational stories, not merely national ones reaching the spotlight of public scrutiny.

These painful stories go beyond the airing of one’s dirty laundry—beyond the more civil storytelling of gossip and innuendo. The oddity to all of this may carry the hashtag #WhatsNext. Stories like these are not like good horror novels that we can put down at times after reading a chapter or can put on a shelf to add to our collection. What are we going to do with all these many horror stories that come out of the darkness and into the light?

These are stories of family, friends, sisters, mothers, daughters, and grandmothers that we cannot as easily close the book on and put aside for a while. These are very real stories that open unhealed wounds of persons who relive past trauma. These stories cross cultures and generations in their depth, which only adds to the rising tide of shared pain. These experiences are difficult to digest and, as many in powerful positions would like us to think, hard to believe. Yet these are the very realities of abused women and men which others with reputations, like judges, senators, or priests, would seek to control.

As we walk down the middle road of our existence, with a chorus of painful reality on one side and the ruthless gang of reputation on the other, there is a very real battle for what we believe. Who is telling the real story? Who will we install in positions of power and judgment over others? And who will be around to write the history books when this greater narrative reaches its eventual end? ~ Blessings!

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The Forest for the Trees: Doing What We Do Best

16 Jun
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The Forest for the Trees: Doing What We Do Best

By Kathy Custren

 

The Forest for the Trees

Part of what intrigues me so about The Conundrum these days is that there are people, very good people, who have such a difficult time with discernment. Oh, vision clarity is not the issue. Unlike yours truly, many can see perfectly well without the aid of corrective lenses. But somewhere along the way, one’s visual acuity or ability to process what we see is called into question. We can describe it as not being able to see the forest for the trees.

Take the issue of life—a large topic, to be sure; but there are those of us who are unable to see the fullness of life. We may have many salient points about the sanctity of life and how important it is to live a good and virtuous life. In our zeal, we hit all the important points about how miraculous and precious it all is, but at some point after that, we fall off from truly committing to the full picture. We see the tree just fine, but not the forest in which it sits. In fact, there is probably a logging project going on not that far away. Forest for the trees, forest for the trees…we struggle with borders and boundaries on a regular basis, and while we tussle over these ill-defined lines, the sand shifts under our collective feet. We are at a point in time where we cannot avoid dealing with our collective consciousness in the forest that surrounds us. –And make no mistake, the other animals in the forest are watching our every move.

Why is it that we are unlikely to equate the taking of, by way of example, a potential human life, with as much gravity as we could the life of an existing tree? Do our rose-colored glasses need that much correction? Try as many do to argue the point, “but it’s only a tree,” a life is still a life, right? We feel pressed to provide rights to one type of life over another. Perhaps this is our problem—the stigma or prejudice we assign to life itself. We hold one type of existence differently than we do another, and this is what permits any number of atrocities to take place. Welcome to our world today.

 

Playing God, and Other Sundry Pastimes

You see, the issue is not in condemning or annihilating the forest, but in playing god…in thinking we have the right to pave the way—whether it be for profit or some other ‘way of being.’ Ultimately, we are taking one life for another, which is the condensed version of selectivity. As imperfect as we human beings are, where do we get off (a) taking life, (b) telling others they cannot take away life, or (c) enjoying the ability to create life in the first place?

The gods of yore (read your mythology) were keen on the entertainment aspects we puny humans once provided them, and probably still do. They are just a lot quieter now with their storytelling, seeing what their folly has wrought. And while on the supernatural topic of dimension and timelessness, we must remember the concept of reincarnation/karma, which speaks to the transformation of energy and the ability we will undoubtedly get to perfect ourselves if we so choose. We are so wrapped up in the physical that we tend to forget the spiritual aspects associated with being here…the forest for the trees, yet again.

So quick are we to point, ridicule, and stigmatize others, that we cannot see the forest ourselves. The interconnectedness we share whoosh! goes over our heads. The one planetary home on which we exist has cycles and timelines much greater than our own, and rather than paying attention to that story, we would much rather inflict our own narrow view. Bottom line, when we disrespect life it has a way of coming back around to haunt us, ultimately.

 

Into the Mix We Go—Now What?

Our forebears tried to warn us; they have left clues if we care to take notice. But, our collective visual problems come into focus yet again. We have trouble seeing correspondences within our own age, in active and real time, let alone thinking about ‘the past.’ We tend to leave such analysis to the history books that end up being rewritten to mask the atrocity of our impact on the planet. So, we should worry about ‘the future;’ and rightfully so. There is a shifting role of ‘the bad guy’ in the story—the antagonist—that should keep all of us on our toes. No matter what name we call that character, be it the devil, monster, disease, death, or any number of labels, we fear its presence and fight to overcome it, whatever “it” may be.

This fearsome, fighting mentality leads us to assign ‘war’ to just about everything, and look at us today. We have wars against drugs, crime, terror, “the other” or “the stranger,” and the labels go on. Forest for the trees again; as we are busy fighting wars, there is much collateral damage; so much for the sanctity of life. We tell ourselves that we are fighting a war to at least provide an excuse, as we drill down even further into the personal lives of people who, for a variety of ‘personal’ reasons, would choose to not let another life be born into this existence. Data drives the human machine as much as profits when it comes to caring: health care, life care, what is the real cost of the medicine that keeps us alive or that keeps the lights on at night? Suicide numbers are actively on the rise, so the choice point becomes crystal clear to many—and can we really blame them? Can we? When it is their choice between ‘this life’ and whatever takes place on the other side?

Hypocrisy aside, can we just let these people sit with the pain and reach that conclusion for themselves? Might we at least make the idea of simple existence a little less painful; perhaps cause a little less suffering? We are talking much more than just feeling an occasional pang of anxiousness here. Our collective pain reaches the level of our collective soul and cries out for attention. When we are unable to sleep at night, all of that suffering must go somewhere. If we really wanted to make a difference on a larger scale, why not target the bomb and weapons makers that annihilate entire swathes of living things off the face of the planet? Why choose instead to make life even more miserable for one who is carrying an unborn without the means to provide for it; or who come to our shore seeking asylum from even greater terror and death? We say we want to change lives, but am I and so many others missing the forest here? What support are we giving people who are here up to the point where pregnancy and one new life becomes a larger problem for “everybody?” Where is our humanity when one more hungry mouth to feed becomes unbearable? Nature has its own way of finding balance on a variety of levels, and let’s just contemplate that one a moment, shall we?

 

Social Media: Processing the Horrible

There is an overarching reason why social media is so consumer-driven. When we consider that we digest more than just nourishment, we cannot ignore the use of virtual reality to process some horrible things. For all those who avoid the internet like the plague, there may be some comfort in that; if not denial. For those of us who are online throughout the day, every day, we worry about the effects of over-consumption and how it might play on us psychologically. Plato’s cave? What is real and what is an illusion?

  • Fake news (from those ‘in charge’) to distract us from horrible changes; many of us would knowingly be in the streets…911…’false flags’…missiles on the way to Hawaii – an oops with deadly results.
  • We ‘elect’ people into positions of governance but fail to direct (provide feedback to) them; instead we get on social media and share memes and thoughts, thoughts and prayers, while few of us attempt to advocate for change or—heaven forbid—actively do something.

Social media goes beyond advertisement…we are not just sharing ideas on the newest restaurant in town or our favorite recipes or sports teams…we use it to process news on all levels, local, state, national, and international. Recent storm damages, wartime skirmishes, human trafficking, and animal poaching and abuse, all find space between the photos we share of our latest meal, Suzie’s school concert, or Uncle Joe’s traveling dart team. I am grateful for the ability of social media to bring us together and share ideas, so let us use this technology wisely. We must bring about great change if we really, really want to make this world a better place.

The way we all process the most horrible parts of our existence means that, in the midst of “all” the things that assail our senses, greater numbers, greater attention, greater energies are spent in managing our time and attention. Can we spend time better by being off the virtual reality and back in the real world and work? We must deal with both the offline and online versions of ourselves—the real and the spiritual combined—and what we bring into this world. So, time and change must apply to both.

 

What Price, Love? The Real Cost of Our Humanity

Is it me? I grew up under the now liberal(?) Christian notion of people loving one another, being a helper, and doing what we can to make the world a better place. So, seeing overwhelming inequality and suffering mixed in a culture of war and death does not sit very well with my psyche—how about yours? We know we can do better. I come from a time, not that far from this present moment, when people were taught to be kind to each other—where bullying, graft, and greed were seen as evils and faults to eschew rather than inspirational parts of our personality. It is not an ‘ego thing’ to care about others; in fact, we might say this lack of empathy is another human failing that we must address.

It goes beyond ‘to each his own,’ and if it means taking a hard look at what we call our borders and boundaries then let’s do that—maybe it is the right time? Here in the United States, I still like to think the founding fathers had it right—we either unite as one or we die alone. We are stronger together. The natural order does have us looking at the real cost of what it means to be a human alive today, and the price is as incalculable as the unspeakable name of God. Both were once revered and sacrosanct; today, both God and life are trivialized—both subjugated to the realm of control, and quite uncomfortable to wear.

When we lose sight of the forest, we also lose sight of its value. When we lose the knowledge that unites us, we separate like a rogue cancer cell might, enveloping and annihilating the health of the surrounding area and all within it. ‘As above, so below’ comes to mind. We have a collective body of pain and trauma to address and heal, and now is as good a time as any, timeless beings that we are.

Join with me in my fervent and daily prayer: Heaven help us, until we can help ourselves and each other.

 

Mother, Sister, Writer, Editor, Advocate, Optimizer, Cosmic Interpreter, and Devotee of Positivity, Kathy Custren writes about The Conundrum since 2007. Connect with “Consciousness Live” on WordPress and Facebook. With united hearts, let us move humanity forward.

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In These Apocalyptic Times, Is Trump the Antichrist?

20 Dec

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In These Apocalyptic Times, Is Trump the Antichrist?

by Kathy Custren

A New Heroic Age Dawns, Hopefully

Surely it crossed somebody else’s mind by now, during these extraordinary times in which we live, that someone must assume one of the pivotal roles of our age. In the grand scale of the story of Revelations, it describes the end of days, with various prescient glimpses of how the rapturous change might appear. With a firmer sense of this impending-if-not-present apocalypse, we must ask who fits the mold of Antichrist? If not the characterization portrayed as Trump, who better to take that role?

Other storytellers offer insight into possibilities. In the eight-being pantheon of archetypes described by the late Joseph Campbell, we have our heroes, mentors, allies, heralds, tricksters, shapeshifters, guardians, and shadows. And we can probably find people to fit any of those identifiable labels.

Could Trump be a shapeshifter? He has certainly been many things to many people over the years…son, mogul, father, owner, and now purported ‘leader of the free world.’ When one man’s rage, outrage, or other tweeted and spoken words cause confusion, pain, and suffering in not only in the U.S. but other parts of globe, it is time to hang the label of Antichrist over the personage as much as any other.

Generations Later, Hitler Redux?

For many, the resurgence of nationalism (MAGA), extremism (tax breaks), racism (white supremacy), reactionary politics (denial), and heavy-handedness (censorship) recalls for many the rise of the Third Reich. As before, it was not one lone figurehead but a group igniting death and destruction and inflaming painful, world-wide effect.

Today’s ‘Hitler redux’ finds America on the brink of economic fallout, class-ism, and a derailing (not merely deregulating) of governmental systems that formerly served its people. We are not simply tweaking a few improvements and getting rid of outdated or outmoded ways. The ‘cost saving’ efforts, combine to not only stoke a sense of fear but also finality; and to what cannot be named exactly. Is it the ‘American Dream?’ Are we at the dawn of another new age? Is it another page of the patriarchy machismo or hero’s story–or will the archetype have a more divinely feminine aspect?

The United Nations fact finding tour viewed the disparity of a world superpower endeavoring to promote and support third-world realities among its citizens. The members of this segment of society grow as exponentially as the economy worsens. By some unofficial estimates, identifiable sectors indicate an approximate threefold inflation over the past 30-40 years. The numbers do not mesh. There is no ‘common wealth’ in many commonwealths; no adjustment of the wealth or generosity by the wealthy, just the brazen attempt to rewrite of the story of our common dream in mid-sentence. The system that once had ‘checks and balances’ is usurped by greed. As this gap widens, the idea of ‘Christian charity’ truly runs amok.

Government of, by and for the People, Revisited

So, while the government seeks to lead, the people feel less a part of the governed and more disenfranchised than ever before. The hands that feed us also seek to sever the ties that bind us, and the resulting flame of hunger fed by the fuel of separation will undoubtedly bring even more unpleasant realities to light. The next level of the pyramid is at hand. That we would spend more of our combined tax money on those with heavy-duty military assets around the globe, and line the pockets of those with so much already in the bank really does seem outrageous. Yet, here we are, not quite outraged enough…yet.

Where is that outrage, many ask? Often, we look to where ‘they’ want us to see. We find no lack of demons ‘out there,’ because we see plenty of horror stories from within our own borders. We no longer need a North Korean missile test to start drums beating when our own society is awash in brutality, trafficking, greed, and vice. As parents cannot feed and house their children, we brutally evict our elders in handcuffs, and close ranks according to select ethnicity, our simmering melting pot will be roiling soon.

Perhaps we do not need an investigation into Russian ties after all, when our own electoral and governing processes contain their own forms of special interests and influence peddling. Draining the political swamp does reveal just how corrupt things are, unfortunately. We need to join together now, more than ever before. This is government we say is in power, until we change it for the better. ~ Blessings!

Us/Them, Left/Right, and Upside Down

1 Dec

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Us/Them, Left/Right, and Upside Down

By Kathy Custren

Maybe it is not odd at all that one of the most popular entertainment shows today is “Stranger Things.” Once upon a time, we found affinity with “The Twilight Zone.” Either title seems appropriate when describing current affairs. American society finds itself in a morass of dystopic proportions, with a narcissistic, self-proclaimed p****y-grabber in the Oval Office and a government quite literally hell-bent on funneling greater funds and freedom to those who are already well-to-do.

Directionality in an Haphazard Space and Time

It is said to be helpful to have a fair sense of place and personhood to know where one is going. While this may be important to get through our everyday lives, how do we maneuver amid chaos? Relax; we’ve got this.

So, to the many on the ‘left’ side of the aisle, who believe in the greater good and the brotherhood of humanity, the outlook of the future appears bleak, if not grim. “Inevitable” is the word as we await ‘official notice’ of the latest round of tax cuts. The writing, as they say, is on the wall.

This is the picture “they” want us to see: one of defeat, struggle, and “winners and losers” (with ‘them’ being the ‘winners,’ of course). Are we going to just let them have their way? Now? In this time of enlightenment and apocalypse, when abuse is finally being discussed out in the open (on the morning and nightly news!) and ‘attacked back’ with legal ramifications? Eyes on the prize, friends….

Hope from the Hopi Tribe

We have a long road ahead, and if the image left us by the ancestors of our Hopi brethren is any indication, there is an uphill climb involved as ‘we the people’ rise to the occasion. Snort with disdain if you will; the Hopi are quite clear that we need not fear an ‘inevitable’ future. They show us how the lines will continue in separate places, as different ways. How many heed the philosophies? The image* shows we must rise above our struggles. That we are better together, even when the road ahead looks more than a little bumpy.

Consider the Inverted Perceptions 

And there are more reminders out there to rediscover. It was not all that long ago that many of us latched on to the “hope and change” ideal. It carried us through the last few years, even though we did not get very far. For every little advancement in the change category we seem to go a few steps backward. We cannot compare our ‘now’ to then, because it really was quite another time, was it not? Our inverted perceptions are part and parcel of this special time, so we may as well embrace them for what they are. Forward, ever forward…do not let the setback or the bumps in the road impede our progress.

Put on another pot of coffee, grab another cup of tea, sharpen the pencils, and light the candle. As Julian of Norwich said, “All will be well.” We just have a lot of work to do; as usual. ~ Blessings!

*Image courtesy of Google Images via source: https://kachina2012.wordpress.com/2010/01/15/swastika-and-hopi-prophecy-re-the-pahana-a-k-a-great-white-brother/

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We Have to Talk About Immigrants

18 Jun

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Seeking New Energies with Clarity and Alignment

29 Oct

Seeking New Energies with Clarity and Alignment

by Kathy Custren

 

A Longtime Problem with Poor Vision

As a person who wears glasses, it is evident to me constantly that my ability to see is not clear without, as it happens, a great deal of external assistance. Once upon a time, I masked my faulty eyesight with contact lenses. These days, I rely on one pair of glasses and it is more than time for new ones. I am forever grateful for the ability to see, and those who help folks like me with vision problems to see clearly.

Glasses are everywhere these days, in a wide variety of designer frames and lenses that can handle multiple focal points and prescriptions. Even those who do not meet with an optometrist can go to the nearest dollar store and find a pair of glasses or sunglasses that will help boost reading or protect eyes from sun glare. So, we might consider glasses an easy fix to a difficult problem many of us face.

I find it is like this in many other areas of life as well. We are fortunate to be able to correct inadequate or fuzzy eyesight with some lenses that take the blurriness away and bring clarity and the world into better focus and safety. One may say that I ‘take advantage’ of lens technology to fit in with everyone else, or that I borrow the energies of all the people who toil in the vision industry to restore my own sight. This can be a sobering contemplation.

Illness and the Misalignment of Energy

When thinking about the ways energy works in our lives, so many of us fail to consider some of the most basic or intrinsic ways energy is exchanged in our vast plane of existence. Many of us choose to operate in our own little bubble of “I-ness,” or “illness,” when we come right down to it. And the poor alignment of energies takes its toll on us in many ways.

Over time, we learn how to correct some of the problems we have in life. Much like the way my pair of glasses fixes my sight, each of us may use, or abuse, some form of energy. Discovering what those changes or energy discrepancies are can take some investigation. Once we know, we can do better, make better choices, get help or an aid, or choose to draw a new boundary of where “no” might be.

Attunement is a great word to describe the alignment or balance of energies that work well together, or that help a struggling energetic aspect gain some added strength. On both a physical and spiritual level, the need for finding attunement can become critical at times. When our “illness” turns extreme, our perception changes and we find ourselves in greater alignment with the negative aspects. Things happen “to” us instead of “with” us, for example.

Corrective Lenses for the Spirit and Other Energies

Seeing or envisioning our way out of illness and back toward balanced or a positive outlook can be daunting, especially without help. Many of us deny there is even a problem, unable to see just how fuzzy or out-of-balance our lives are. We operate in a realm of misperception, and this mode may be how many of our family and friends know us best, unfortunately—always complaining, always in pain, always down or playing catch up.

Or, we might use one type of energy to mask or deal with the illness. Many people turn to negative habits to hide just how much pain they have, or how ‘impossible’ their situation is, and because we get used to the notion that life does not always make sense. We can all use a new pair of glasses when our eyesight changes, as it does over time, but not everyone is able to get to the eye doctor or even the dollar store to get that ‘one little thing’ adjusted. The more valiant among us persevere with the problem until we get to the edge of breaking down completely.

Whether we are dealing with bullying in school, a co-worker who is on an ego trip, raising children who have difficulties, in-laws who are judgmental, not being able to afford groceries, the basement floods, our vehicle is on the recall list, our own physical pain or other disease, or well-meaning friends we haven’t seen in a while, we can feel pulled in multiple ways. Which problem takes priority when one lives such a full life? How are our triage skills? Honesty says we can use a bit of help in dealing with the daily energetic pressures.

Doing Without? There is Always More

When we see our life is “too full” for our own good, we tend to scale back. This can be helpful if we find our world is chock-full of ‘stuff,’ but if we find we need more people to help and they are not around, then what? There is a stigma attached to reaching out, because many of us do not want to give off the perception of being a burden to others. So, doing without becomes the skill we do best—seeing less of our family and friends, not participating in ‘energy draining’ activities, doing more of the denial or masking to keep some semblance of balance in our lives becomes the priority.

We become very good at saying no, which also happens to include many of the opportunities to turn things around. When we become insulated or isolated, whatever problem we have becomes that much larger. If I did not have my glasses, I would be lucky to be able to maneuver in my house, let alone make my way down the street. If I did not have the right amount of assistance, even knowing where things are can become a daily hazard. Keeping track of multiple problems would soon build into an even greater danger.

We may fail to contemplate this snowball effect and how it relates to problems in our life. We could have multiple snowballs growing and rolling on a continual basis. Understanding that there is always more, and that like tends to attract like, is a good indication that we might need to make a change or find a different kind of attunement.

Healing Illness and Discovering Wellness

I wrote in other instances describing that finding balance is much like a juggling act. Too often, the best and most entertaining jugglers manage to incorporate additional partners. Sure, it is a wonderful skill to know how to juggle alone, but it helps to be able to toss something over and relieve the pressure of “handling” for even a brief time.

Energetic pressure, such as gravity, can take its toll, as I was reminded recently in a class this week. Even the smallest weight can become unbearable if we never get the opportunity to put it down from time to time. So, the first step we can do to help find additional energies that lend themselves to our strength and wellness is to share the load a bit. We have the power to choose who and when, provided we can overcome the stumbling block of stigma.

As with my eyeglasses, I am fortunate to be part of some energetically supportive groups. NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, is a grassroots organization that educates and supports individuals and families who are living with a variety of illnesses. Another is the National Council on Behavioral Health—through its Mental Health First Aid program. Any of us can turn to family, friend, faith, business, and other social groups for support.

In difficult times, sharing energies in support is the way so many of us find balance and ways to cope with the weights we juggle along our road of life. Let’s make a pact to stomp out stigma and do what we can to support each other. When it comes to healing illness, and finding balance and wellness, we are all in this together. ~ Blessings!

 

“Genuflection”

25 Sep

It is September 24, 2017, and many people online today are taking various sides on the “take the knee” controversy. Alternatively known as “tebowing,” the action seems to take on its own flavor palette in the National Football League. Growing up in the Roman Catholic faith, taking a knee genuflecting has its own traditional and deeper meaning of submissive respect:

“In the old days, when you came in front of your social superiors, you were expected to genuflect: that is, bend your knee and bow submissively. You did it before kings and nobles, and everyone did it in church before God. [emphasis added] In our more egalitarian age, genuflecting has taken on a rather insincere and servile meaning.” –Vocabulary.com

One could add, ‘…unless you plan to make an effective marriage proposal, in which case it had better be sincere.’ –But I digress; there is more on Wikipedia if you want to look it up.

So, seeing someone ‘take a knee’ at any point has a much less controversial slant to it than much of what is out there to read today. In not fully standing for the ‘pledge’ by genuflecting, Colin Kaepernick took a ‘respectful stance’ in asserting his right to express himself. The difference between the actions of Kaepernick and Tebow is like night and day, in certain respects.

Had Kaepernick stood with a fist raised in defiance, as others have before, I could understand where his action might be misconstrued. [“Power to the people?”] In explaining why he knelt, I read his words to be just that—a personal reason for not participating in pledging allegiance to the flag. If someone feels that strongly against a pledge, prayer, or some other oath, they can find a suitable and respectful way through it.

The meaning of Kaepernick’s action in ‘taking a knee’ is being twisted throughout the media as a sign of disrespect. This is different than the reverence we saw for tebowing, and can only imagine the mixed message this sends to women whose husbands proposed marriage to them on bended knee. Do we consider genuflection a sign of respect, or does it depend on who is doing it?

People take up mantle of redefining what Kaepernick did, all in the guise of controlling the narrative to one of disrespect—for the pledge, the flag, the military and those who serve the country—rather than wade into the stated intent or the actual waters of racism and oppression which mire the lives of many people of color. Some may say there is little sport in that.

We find it expedient to support a national symbol or a pledge penned in 1892, than to deal with the real words and sentiment expressed in present-day 2017. It is this very side-stepping that fans the embers of the racism and oppression that continue to burn. To indicate a prayerful stance in the face of that oppression brings out a shared sense of indignity. The tragic disagreement is that so many of us fail to acknowledge the shadows of privilege and righteousness in which that indignation exists.